How to End Abuse and Rebuild Your Life

The Getting Out Guide

The Guide is a practical, step-by-step workbook that helps you recognize, escape, and stay out of abusive relationships. It contains the tools and strategies you need to rebuild your life, become self-reliant, and enjoy a future free from harm.

Hard Facts About Abuse

“Abuse” includes other terms used to describe the same thing: domestic violence, intimate partner violence, family violence, wife-beating, and all other types of harm done to you by any person you are in an intimate relationship with.

1 in 3 women, 1 in 9 men, and even higher numbers of LGBTQ+ people will be abused in their lifetimes. So it can be happening to you, whether you are a woman in a relationship with an abusive man, a man in a relationship with an abusive woman, or being abused in any other gender-oriented relationship.

Stop Believing the Lies.
Start Recognizing the Truth.

Stop Believing the Lies. Start Recognizing the Truth.

You Do Not Have to Be Hit to be Abused

Abuse starts with mental (emotional and verbal) abuse. You might be abused your entire life without ever getting hit.

You Are Not Crazy

You may have been told you are crazy. You may think you are crazy because of what happens in your relationship. That is wrong. You feel this way because you are in a crazy situation.

You Are Not Alone

20 people are abused every five minutes in the US. This includes people of all races, religions, education and income levels who might be suffering in silence like you.

The number of tries it takes a victim to get out of an abusive relationship and stay out
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18-24

The age between which almost 40% of victims get into an abusive relationship for the first time

The odds that an 8 year-old child of an abused mother will have a lower IQ than the child of a mother who is not abused
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Abuse is complex, confusing, and lonely.

Understanding abuse can feel like navigating a labyrinth of mixed signals and contradictory emotions. The nature of abuse often leaves individuals feeling bewildered and isolated, trapped in a cycle where the lines between love and control blur. This section delves into the intricate dynamics of abusive relationships, shedding light on why abuse is rarely straightforward and why it’s common to feel alone and disoriented.

By exploring these complexities, you’ll gain clarity and insight, empowering you to break free from the confusion and solitude that abuse can create.

Abuse is complex, confusing and lonely.

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Stories of Transformation

Essential Answers for Reclaiming Your Life

Finding your way out of an abusive relationship can be overwhelming, and you may have many questions along the way. In this section, we address the most pressing concerns about recognizing, escaping, and recovering from abuse. These answers are designed to guide you through the complexities of abuse, helping you make informed decisions and take empowered steps toward a life free from harm.

What is the purpose of this guide?
The Guide is designed to help individuals recognize, escape, and stay out of abusive relationships. It offers practical, step-by-step strategies and tools to rebuild your life, regain self-reliance, and create a future free from harm. Whether you’re currently in an abusive situation or recovering from one, the Guide provides support and actionable advice tailored to your needs.
How can I tell if I’m in an abusive relationship?
Abuse can take many forms, including emotional, physical, financial, and psychological. Common signs of abuse include feeling constantly belittled, controlled, or threatened; experiencing frequent mood swings in your partner; or having your personal boundaries consistently violated. The Guide offers detailed descriptions and examples to help you identify the signs of abuse in your relationship.
What should I do if I realize I’m in an abusive relationship?
The first step is to ensure your immediate safety. Create a safety plan that includes a safe place to go and important contact numbers. Next, seek support from trusted friends, family, or professional services. The Guide provides step-by-step instructions and resources to help you make a plan to escape safely and start rebuilding your life.
How do I regain my confidence and self-worth after experiencing abuse?
Recovering your confidence and self-worth is a gradual process. Engaging in self-care, seeking therapy, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and setting small, achievable goals can all contribute to rebuilding your sense of self.
Can abusive behavior change, and should I consider reconciliation?
While some individuals may promise to change, abusive behavior is often deeply ingrained and difficult to alter. Reconciliation should be approached with caution, and only after the abusive person has demonstrated significant, sustained changes, ideally with the guidance of a professional. Your safety and well-being must always come first.

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